Why You (Don’t) Need A Fuckboy

We’ve been living in a world where almost everything we want is one click away. We have the luxury to be lazy and served at the front door with our favourite sushi, so why not, in the same way, order and consume all other kind of pleasures? Out there, there’s a beautiful infinite spectrum of possibilities for the instant dopamine, where we can effortlessly get what we (think) we want - and this is such a fertile ground for the fuckboys to grow. Who is exactly a fuckboy and what makes him so?

Let’s start with the definition from the Urban Dictionary: “A fuck boy is someone who says “I’m bad at relationships” as if it’s nearly an absolute truth. He, the fuck boy, is fundamentally confused and is unsure of what he wants. However, he will seemingly sincerely play like he is more involved or enamored than he actually is in interest of getting romantic attention and scratching the romantic/sex itch. He is superficially intimate, as if acting from a script he knows all to well. Fuck boy operates from a superficial level of consciousness and although he will seem like he is connected, time will show you that he never was.” 
The fuckboy is usually good-looking (according to the debatable society’s standards), he is flirty with everyone, he smiles heavenly and easily gets your attention in a room full of reproductive possibilities, et voilà! There’s a fuckboy on your list that you are already checking as done, even before blinking your eyes under the heart-shaped-rose-coloured glasses. There’s one thing to acknowledge about fuckboys - they are actually fun! Only Fun! Nothing else. Don’t burden your lil’ cute fuckboy with emotions or expectations (for God’s sake!), play with him, use him as the toy he wants and needs to be, in order to feel appreciated, and enjoy - yourself, him and the whole process. Know that, once out of bed, you’ll probably feel the urge to save and mother him. Also, there’s no chance you can succeed in this. One more thing, don’t go down this road if you are not fully aware of yourself and your needs.

The fuckboy is tricky and highly toxic. Mostly, he is a codependent narcissist. He can easily become your coping mechanism of avoiding the true intimacy and over-protecting your heart from love. Yes, love can be heart-breaking, but fuckboys can fuck with your heart way better than fucking you in bed. Unfortunately. Let him be the snack to your (craving) ego, but be fully mindful that the fuckboy can’t be a proper meal. Don’t try to change him - instead you can reflect on why you are passionately triggered by someone who can’t commit to you.
Because, you know what’s really hot? The presence of your lover. His devotion to every inch of your body and your true essence. His awareness of his own body and how, not just to use it, but to celebrate it properly, together with you, in union. Surrendering to the real lover will be so easy and natural, because of the underlaying feeling of safety. The same one you’ll never feel with a fuckboy. But, at the end, who wants the responsibility of love when we can have (only) fun!